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Minutes from Cyber-Stalking Conference Darren Ambler Sept

Minutes from Cyber-Stalking Conference Darren Ambler Sept
Minutes from Cyber-Stalking Conference Darren Ambler Sept
Report #: 9517 - 0 Comments
Date Reported: Saturday, September 25, 2021
Status: Past Incident
Severity: High - Cyberstalking
Primary Weapon: Investigative Services
Specific Location: Cherry Hill
City/Local Area: South Jersey
State/Territory: New Jersey
Region: United States

MINUTES FROM CYBER-STALKING CONFERENCE:

LOCATION-CHERRY HILL, NJ:

TIME-07:00 P.M./ MASK'S OPTIONAL:

ROOM CAPACITY: 250 MAX.

DATE: SEPT 21

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Hello.

My name is Arleen. I am one of the secretary's that works for the agency that schedules the guest speakers {Pearson}. Thank you again for all who attended. Even-though, our main speaker whom most know well {P.R}. It's best if I use his initials. He did an excellent presentation as usual considering he was not feeling well. I learned it was one year this September that his 39 year old sister died suddenly, which it was evident he seemed shaken on 9/21. In addition, I learned a close friend of his family just passed. He is a trooper and compassionate person. P.R. didn't want to disappoint all who attended by cancelling the event. I am sure all those who attended this recent event noticed that {P.R.} seemed unfocused and not himself. Kind of sad and tired looking. I am sure within time he will be back to himself.

QUES & ANSWERS POSTED BELOW {added 9/25};

Questions & Replies:

QUESTION--Hi- My name is Candace- After all you went through being harassed, stalked and in a sense defamed-do you feel the cyber stalking situation is getting better? worse? and- how do you feel now about this Darren Ambler person? Thanks.

ANSWER- THANK YOU CANDACE. STATISTICS DEMONSTRATE THAT AT LEAST WE ARE MAKING PROGRESS BUT STILL HAVE A WAY TO GO. MY FEELINGS TOWARD MR. AMBLER ARE REALLY I GUESS VOID/ I REALLY HAVE NO FEELING ABOUT HIM ANY MORE. I SAID THIS BEFORE-I LIVE MY LIFE AS IF HE DOESN'T EXIST. YOU CAN'T ERASE THE PAST MEMORIES WEATHER GOOD OR BAD. I WILL SAY I HOPE SOME DAY HE STRAIGHTENS OUT AND GETS THE HELP HE DESPERATELY NEEDS.

QUESTION--Hi I'm Rudy--Was Cyber-bullying always a felony crime?

ANSWER--YES TO MY KNOWLEDGE. YES STIFF PENALTIES ARE ENFORCED.

QUESTION-Hello Megan -What kind of attorney should you hire if you plan to pursue a cyber stalking case?

ANSWER--AN ATTORNEY SKILLED IN COMPUTER CRIME/COMPUTER FORENSICS..THEY ARE COSTLY BUT WORTH IT.

QUESTION--Hi I am Leah--when you retain an attorney, i am assuming the main intent is to prosecute the cyber bully and send a message. However, can you also bring suit for personal damages like emotional distress?

ANSWER--GOOD QUES-YES YOU CAN SUE FOR EMOTIONAL STRESS BUT THAT WOULD BE A SEPARATE LAW SUIT. YOU HAVE TO GET A GUILTY VERDICT FIRST THEN PROCEED TO THE EMOTIONAL ASPECTS.

QUESTION-Joe-First my condolences for your sister and family friend--You are definitely making a difference with these conferences-does it give you a good feeling knowing you are making a difference? Thanks.

ANSWER--THANK YOU JOE--YES I HAVE A GOOD FEELING INSIDE ABOUT WHAT I AM DOING. THIS IS A SERIOUS ISSUE.

QUESTION--Hello my name is Sharon--Has there been a decrease of cyber stalking on major Internet forums like Facebook? Thank you.

ANSWER--I BELIEVE 2020 STATISTICS SHOW A SLIGHT DECREASE IN CYBER CRIME IN COMPARISON WITH PREVIOUS YEARS. OF 2021 STATS ARE NOT YET PUBLISHED.

QUESTION--Hi Todd W.-do you think all stalkers have mental issues?

ANSWER--YES RESEARCH INDICATES THAT MOST CYBER BULLIES ARE MENTALLY DISTURBED AND MOST LIVE DOUBLE LIVES-BUT USUALLY GET CAUGHT THROUGH STUPIDITY AND CARELESSNESS.

QUESTION--Hi my name is Jackie-Can you elaborate on what exactly caused the termination of your friendship that lead up to the cyber stalking and cruel way this Daren treated you? Thanks.

ANSWER- THIS WAS A DIFFICULT TIME FOR ME. I HAD OTHER ISSUES GOING ON BESIDES THIS. FIRST, I REALIZED AFTER ABOUT 6 MONTHS ALTHOUGH WE WERE CLOSE THAT WE WERE ENTIRELY TWO DIFFERENT PEOPLE. MEANING-PERSONALITY WISE--MORAL BELIEFS--OUR UPBRINGING- OUR VALUES ETC. I WAS OUTGOING AND PERSONABLE AND MR. AMBLER WAS NOT A PEOPLE PERSON AT ALL. HE FELT UNCOMFORTABLE ESPECIALLY AROUND STRANGERS. THIS WAS PROBABLY DUE TO HIS INSECURITIES AND SHY DEMEANOR. ALSO--I HAVE ALWAYS CARED ABOUT FRIENDS AS IF THEY WERE FAMILY. I GUESS I WAS RAISED THAT WAY. I ADMIT I DID CARED ABOUT HIM AT ONE TIME. I WAS ALSO SYMPATHETIC TO HIM WHEN HE GOING THROUGH A HURTFUL MARITAL BREAK-UP. I MISTAKENLY GOT TOO INVOLVED IN HIS PERSONAL LIFE. I ATTEMPTED TO FIX HIM UP WITH A GIRL THAT WAS TOTALLY OUT OF HIS LEAGUE {CLASS- PERSONALITY-UPBRINGING ETC}. PLUS-THINGS SHE DISCOVERED ABOUT HIM SCARED HER OFF SHE LOST ALL INTEREST. THE BIGGER ISSUE WAS MR. AMBLER WAS SO BENEATH HER IN EVERY WAY. I WAS NAIVE TO THIS EARLY ON. I GUESS I KEPT TRYING TO PUSH IT BUT IT BACKFIRED. THEN MR. AMBLER'S SELFISH AND VINDICTIVE SIDE SURFACED BECAUSE HE DIDN'T GET WHAT HE WANTED. THEREFORE, HE TURNED ON ME WITH A VENGEANCE. THEN I REALIZED A 'TRUE' FRIEND WOULD NEVER TURN ON YOU--THEREFORE, HE WAS NOT A LOYAL FRIEND FROM DAY ONE. HE ALSO STARTED LIVING A LESS THAN RESPECTABLE LIFE WHICH I DID NOT APPROVE OF. NO MORAL PERSON WITH ANY SENSE WOULD APPROVE OF HIS LIFESTYLE. HOWEVER, HE IS OBVIOUSLY TOO SICK AND SELF-CENTERED TO UNDERSTAND THIS OR CARE.

WHEN MR. AMBLER REALIZED I KNEW OF HIS DOUBLE LIFE THEN HE BECAME VICIOUS. IF MR. AMBLER REALLY FELT LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE WAS ACCEPTABLE-HE WOULDN'T HAVE LIED ABOUT IT AND TRIED TO CONCEAL IT FROM OTHERS. I DOUBT MANY PEOPLE RESPECT MR. AMBLER. THAT'S WHY TAKING ME TO COURT WAS THE DUMBEST THING HE EVER DID. WE HAD TONS OF PROOF AGAINST HIM. MR. AMBLER HAD NOTHING AGAINST ME EXCEPT BASELESS ACCUSATIONS THAT COULD NEVER BE PROVEN. I WILL SAY IT AGAIN, MR. AMBLER SHOULD BE GRATEFUL I AGREED TO DROP THE CASE. IT WOULD HAVE HAD A DEVASTATING OUTCOME FOR HIM AND HIS FUTURE.

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FROM DAY ONE WE WERE NOT COMPATIBLE FRIENDS AND HE HAD SERIOUS MENTAL AND ADDICTION ISSUES. PEOPLE SUCH AS MR. AMBLER CAN'T BE A GOOD FRIEND BECAUSE HE MUST LIE TO COVER UP HIS INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIORS. I HAVE SO MANY GREAT FRIENDS AND MR. AMBLER IS NON EXISTENT IN MY LIFE. WHICH REALLY IS HIS LOSS BUT IM SURE HE DOESN'T THINK SO NOR CARE. I THINK MANY PEOPLE DO KNOW ABOUT HIS DOUBLE LIFE NOW. THE FACT THAT MR. AMBLER ISN'T ASHAMED GOES TO SHOW YOU HOW SICK AND ISOLATED HE REALLY IS. YES--I WAS HURT AND ANGRY IN THE BEGINNING, BUT I AM WELL OVER IT. HAVING A LOVING WIFE, A GREAT FAMILY, CLOSE FRIENDS AND CAREER I LOVE HELPS ME GET THROUGH JUST ABOUT ANYTHING. BEFORE OUR FRIENDSHIP ENDED, I WOULD OCCASIONALLY SPEAK TO HIS FORMER WIFE. SHE TOLD ME THAT MR. AMBLER WILL NEVER ADMIT HE IS WRONG. I AM SURE THIS WAS A FACTOR IN HIS MARRIAGE BREAK UP. YOU CAN'T LIVE WITH SOMEONE THAT ALWAYS THINKS THEY ARE RIGHT. MR. AMBLER LIVES IN HIS OWN LITTLE WORLD.-I FEEL THAT MR. AMBLER WAS

RAISED IN AN ENVIRONMENT THAT DIDN'T EXPRESS WARMTH AND AFFECTION WHICH DEFINITELY AFFECTED HIM.

QUESTION-From Ted- do you plan to travel to different states to conduct your speaking engagements?

ANSWER--ASIDE FROM NJ AND PA. WE DID HAVE ONE CONFERENCE IN MARYLAND. WE MAY BRANCH OUT-DEPENDS ON SCHEDULES, FUNDS & DEMAND. EVERYONE IS INTERESTED IN STOPPING CYBER STALKING. WE WILL SEE.

QUESTION--I am Evelyn- Sherman Oaks CA. We seem to have a big problem in CA with computer crime. Do you have an interest in coming California to speak and make Californians more aware of this serious problem? Thank you.

ANSWER--SURE I LOVE CALIFORNIA. BEEN THERE ABOUT 6 TIMES THROUGHOUT MY LIFE. IT DEPENDS ON THE BIG BOSSES. MAYBE ONE DAY. WE WILL KEEP YOU INFORMED.

QUESTION--Hi Melissa Ann-Sorry about the loss of your sister and friend. What are the statistics on a person being stalked by a stranger as opposed to someone they know such as ex-boyfriend, ex spouse?

ANSWER-THANK YOU MELISSA. DON'T KNOW STATS OFF HAND. HOWEVER, IT'S MORE COMMON A PERSON IS STALKED BY SOMEONE THEY KNOW. REMEMBER--IT'S AN ACT OF CONTROL AND VENGEANCE. IT CAN BECOME DANGEROUS AND STRESSFUL TO THE VICTIM.

Thank you again for your patience and cooperation.

Arleen Stahl

Secretary-Assistant.


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