Cyber-Conference Ques & Answer Segment:
Posted by: Carolyn Boufford
Date of Conference: 2/17/22:
Location: Mt. Laurel, NJ.
Part (03) / of 03:
Attendance: Max-260/ (226-attendees).
Speaker's for the evening: Pat / Mark:
Time: 07:00-PM-10:00-PM:
*Question & Answer period/ Final phase of Cyber-Conference:
Pat and Mark will answer the audience's questions. Both Questions & Answers are published on this website and are considered to be part of the published transcript for the February 17, 2022 Cyber-Conference Meeting. Thank you all again for your interest and support.
QUESTION-Josh/Haddonfield-NJ/ Pat, you said early on your cyberbully Ambler was so desperate to sever your communication on Facebook that he reported you to Facebook security in an attempt to get you thrown off Facebook? I read about this in your legal summary that your attorney prepared. This guy must have been desperate to report a false claim? can you elaborate? Thx.
ANSWER- YES MR. AMBLER DID THIS WITHIN A FEW DAYS AFTER OUR 'FALLING OUT. THIS WAS HIS FIRST FAILED ATTEMPT TO INTERFERE WITH MY FACEBOOK ACCT AND GET ME THROWN OFF THE SITE. HE WAS SO PARANOID I WAS GOING TO TELL OTHERS ABOUT HIS DOUBLE LIFE, HE WAS WILLING TO TRY ANYTHING. MR. AMBLER, REPORTED ME TO FB SECURITY AND TOLD THEM MY ACCT WAS FRAUDULENT. HIS PLAN BACKFIRED. FACEBOOK EMAILED ME AND TOLD ME TO FAX A COPY OF MY LICENSE AND WORK ID FOR VERIFICATION. I COMPLIED. FACEBOOK CLEARED MY ACCOUNT AND MR. AMBLER DID NOT GET ME THROWN OFF FACEBOOK. RIGHT AFTER THIS FAILED ATTEMPT, MR AMBLER STARTED HIS FULL-FLEDGED CYBERSTALKING TIRADE AGAINST ME WHICH LASTED 15 WEEKS. ALL MY STALKERS ATTEMPTS TO HURT ME AND REMOVE ME FROM FACEBOOK BACKFIRED BIG TIME.
QUESTION- From Joyce/Havertown-PA-/ Hello, I enjoyed tonight very much and my question is for the taller gentlemen, Pat/ Mark said his stalker wrote him a letter after he did his time/ did you ever hear from Mr. Ambler after your case was settled? Do you have any thoughts about him now?
ANSWER--THANK YOU FOR YOUR QUES JOYCE. NO- NEVER HEARD FROM MR. AMBLER. I DON'T WANT TO HEAR FROM HIM. HE ISN'T SUPPOSED TO EVER CONTACT ME. I'VE MOVED ON. I HAVE NO DOUBT DARREN AMBLER ISN'T SORRY. HE DOESN'T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING HE DID. HAS NO REMORSE AND YOU MUST REMEMBER HE ISN'T MENTALLY FIT. HE MAY BE SORRY ABOUT GETTING CAUGHT AND THE FACT THAT THE INFO REGARDING MY CASE IS PUBLICLY AVAILABLE ON THE INTERNET. I AM SURE HE DOESN'T LIKE THAT.
QUESTION- From Rich/Merchantville-NJ--My question for Mark-You said you tried to handle your stalker without involving the police? How did you handle it? What prompted you to finally involve the law?
ANSWER-I IGNORED A LOT OF THE STALKING BECAUSE I WAS SO BUSY WITH MY COMPANY. MY WIFE BECAME FRIGHTENED WHEN SHE RECEIVED A TEXT FROM THIS GUY. WE HAD SMALL KIDS. I KNEW I HAD TO DO SOMETHING. I WILL NEVER FORGET HOW UPSET MY WIFE WAS. AS MAN OF THE HOUSE, I HAD TO PROTECT MY FAMILY. THE NEXT DAY I CALLED THE POLICE, FILED A REPORT AND WITHIN A WEEK I HIRED A LAWYER WHO SPECIALIZED IN COMPUTER CRIME. MY ADVICE, REPORT IT IMMEDIATELY DON'T WAIT.
QUESTION-From R.J/ Jackson Heights-NY- For Speaker Pat/ I am a Law Student at NYU- I commend you for fighting back. It's bad enough to be cyberbullied, but when it is a former friend it has to make it worse. It seems you had 'full proof' evidence and an iron-clad case. You mentioned you could have sued this Ambler nut for Civil Defamation also? Why did you agree to drop the case and not prosecute? This creep deserved to be punished. Thanks.
ANSWER- YES- IT WAS HARD IN THE BEGINNING. BUT WHEN I REALIZED HOW HEARTLESS AND CRAZY MR. AMBLER REALLY WAS-IT GAVE ME THE DRIVE TO FIGHT BACK EVEN MORE. OUR CASE WAS 100% WINNABLE. MY ATTORNEY WAS A BUDDY TOO. HE SAID IF WE PROCEED FOR A PROSECUTION OF MR AMBLER IT COULD DRAG ON FOR 6-12 MONTHS. MAYBE LONGER WITH A JURY TRIAL. TO KEEP THE CASE OPEN WOULD HAVE COST ME MORE MONEY, CONSUMED A LOT OF TIME AND IT WOULD HAVE CAUSED STRESS ON MY FAMILY. DARREN AMBLER ISN'T WORTH MY TIME, MONEY ETC. ALSO, I HAVE A GREAT CAREER BUT IT CAN BE DEMANDING. I WAS NOT ABOUT TO TAKE DAYS OFF FROM WORK AND SIT IN COURT WITH SOMEONE WHO IS SO BENEATH ME IT'S SICKENING. DARREN IS A WASTE.
QUESTION: Hi Debbie from Vincentown-NJ-/ Mark, you said you felt sorry for your stalker. Why? Do you suffer any long-term trauma or fear from the stalking incident?
ANSWER- GOOD QUES DEBBIE. I FELT A LITTLE SORRY FOR MY STALKER BECAUSE I REALIZED HOW SICK IN THE HEAD HE REALLY WAS. I THINK MY COLLEAGUE PAT WOULD AGREE THAT HE FELT DARREN AMBLER WAS DEFINITELY MESSED UP MENTALLY ALSO, I DO FEEL MR. AMBLER IS AN EXTREME CASE AS OPPOSED TO MY STALKER. PART 2 OF YOUR QUES--I DO THINK ABOUT MY STALKING ORDEAL FROM TIME TO TIME, BUT I DON'T THINK I SUFFER LONG-TERM EFFECTS.
QUESTION-Hi Alisha/ from Princeton NJ/ Pat. You guys did a great job tonight. Keep up the good work. My ques do you think Mr. Ambler is just lucky that he has not gone to jail for other things/acts he might have committed? !where is he now?
ANSWER- IF IN FACT, HE HAS NEVER GONE TO JAIL, YES IT HAS TO BE PURE LUCK. HOWEVER, CONSIDERING HIS LIFESTYLE, HIS IDIOTIC CHOICES, AND HIS DECLINING EMOTIONAL STATE, HE MAY END UP IN TROUBLE WITH THE LAW ONE DAY. I AM SURE NO SANE PERSON WANTS ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIM. I AM SURE HE HAS GOTTEN WORSE SINCE I SEVERED TIES WITH HIM.
QUESTION- Justin from Devon-PA-/Mark -you mentioned a connection between Cyberbullies and sexual obsession or sexual thoughts? Can you elaborate?
ANSWER- BASED ON CLINICAL STUDIES-A LARGE NUMBER OF ONLINE STALKERS ARE MALE AND SEEM TO HAVE COMPULSIONS FOR PORNOGRAPHIC MATERIAL, RISKY SEX, AND RISKY BEHAVIOR IN GENERAL. I KNOW IN MY CASE WHEN THE POLICE SEARCHED MY STARKERS COMPUTER THEY FOUND PORNO DOWNLOADS. YES, THIS DUDE WAS SEXUALLY MALADJUSTED.
QUESTION: Hey I'm Jim in NJ for two more days. Then back to Aurora CO. Pat you know Terri and I love you. I am really sorry this degenerate POS put a good guy like you through this hell. Someday this wack job will get what he deserves. We are so sorry about the death of your sister Lori. . I know you still can't talk about it. You're a good guy that befriended this Darren a-hole. It's his loss. This dude is Slime. Ambler has nothing but an assortment of street sluts. I'm proud of what you are doing. my question-when are you and Karen coming out to visit us in Colorado?
ANSWER- JIM I HAD A FEELING YOU GUYS WERE IN NJ. ANYWAY- LOVE YOU GUYS TOO, MISS YOU. KAREN AND I ARE NOT TRAVELING TOO MUCH THESE DAYS BECAUSE OF COVID. WE TRAVELED A LOT BEFORE COVID. WE WILL HOOK UP BEFORE YOU GO BACK.
LADIES & Gentlemen-THIS IS A VERY GOOD FRIEND JIM AND HIS WIFE TERRY.
QUESTION: Hello I am Jill. I can't imagine what is was like to have someone you trusted and cared about-turn on you with such hatred. I looked at the questions and I attended the February conference. I don't think you ever expressed your personal feelings about the hurt Mr. Ambler caused you? I think you mentioned Mr. Ambler was pissed because he expected you to fix him up with someone? Then when the girl had no interest-Mr. Ambler didn't want your friendship anymore. That is pretty shallow and self-centered on his part. Can you elaborate? Thanks.
ANSWER- I GUESS IT WON'T HURT TO EXPLAIN HERE. YES, IT IS SHALLOW AND SELFISH ON DARREN AMBLER'S PART. HOWEVER, THAT'S THE WAY MR. AMBLER IS. PROBABLY ALWAYS WAS SELFISH AND COLD. I KNEW MR. AMBLER HAD EMOTIONAL AND SUBSTANCE ABUSE ISSUES. THAT'S NO REASON TO TREAT ME BADLY. HE DID IT BECAUSE HE HAD A NEW SECRET LIFE HE WAS EMBARKING UPON. HE WANTED TO DITCH ME AND MOVE ON. WHICH I ALREADY MOVED ON AND WANTED NO PART OF HIM ANYMORE. YES, IT HURT ME BECAUSE AT ONE TIME I CARED ABOUT HIM AS A BROTHER/FRIEND. I KNOW NOW MR. AMBLER IS NOT MENTALLY CAPABLE OF HAVING STABLE FRIENDSHIPS OR NORMAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN. IF HE WAS HE WOULDN'T BE SLEEPING WITH PAID SEX WORKERS.